FEAR! — How To Face It Head-On and Turn It Into a Positive

FEAR! — How to Face It Head-On and Turn It Into a Positive by Aimee B. Davis{4:06 minutes to read} In May’s blog post , I discussed the value of taking a few long and slow breaths before embarking on any daunting task.

I have an irrational fear of heights. I discovered this 25 years ago whilst climbing to the top of the cupola at the Vatican. In addition to hyperventilating and sweating my way to the viewing platform, when I arrived, I suffered the delusion that a strong wind would sweep me off the balustrade, carrying me to a dramatic death in the center of St. Peter’s Square. In order to combat this illogical notion and avoid passing out, I had to breathe slowly and consciously.

Because of my fear of heights, I was curious to see how I’d fare at Aerial Yoga. I tried it for the first time last month. I anticipated feeling unsure and uncomfortable being upside down without the comfort of gravity keeping me grounded to the earth. I would not be in control of the situation, my body, or my mind. But, rather than giving in to paralyzing fear, I resigned myself to TRUST my instructor when she told me to fling my body forward face first. Surprisingly, I felt a sense of accomplishment from hanging freely upside down.

As a young corporate associate, I also experienced trepidation when faced with stacks of legal documents to organize or was tasked with reviewing an overwhelmingly large sample of due diligence materials for an upcoming transaction. I faced similar professional uncertainty (i.e., FEAR) when I lost my BIG LAW firm job and then again when I started ABD Law.

Today, I understand and appreciate that even though facing the unknown is often scary, I achieve increased levels of self-esteem and self-satisfaction from learning new skills.

Even after more than 22 years of legal practice, I sometimes experience feelings of discomfort when taking on a new client or a new contract. When facing a new professional challenge, I ask myself variations of the following questions:

  1. Will I identify and find the most efficient solutions to address the biggest business risks my client faces in doing the deal at hand?
  2. How can I clarify and tighten the language in the proposed contract to best protect my client’s business objectives?
  3. How can I provide value to my client in light of the time and money being spent engaging in this and in future transactions?

I approach answering these questions with the same nervous energy I experienced when I was swinging upside down from a hammock in Aerial Yoga, as well as my experience at the Vatican, but I’ve learned the necessity of being willing to go outside of my comfort zone in order to grow.

As humans, we are adaptable even if we don’t know it. Just like going to the gym, advancing professionally requires exercising these muscles throughout our careers and having various experiences outside of our areas of expertise in order to remind ourselves just how adaptable we really are.

Only from experience can you learn that when you venture outside of your comfort zone, not only will you SURVIVE, but often you will THRIVE.

Aimee B. Davis Law P.C. is committed to advising its clients and resolving issues relating to the legal and business matters that are important to them. If you have any questions, please feel free to contact us at (917) 617-2243 or email aimee@aimeebdavis.com.

Aimee B. Davis
Aimee B. Davis Law P.C.
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Brooklyn, NY 11201
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4 Responses to FEAR! — How To Face It Head-On and Turn It Into a Positive

  1. jef margolis says:

    Good approach outlined here. Thanks.

  2. Trish Rubin says:

    This is a terrific blogpost …not just for attorneys. I know because I’m not one and I am inspired. Being dedicated to providing value is a the way to provide brand equity in a crowded marketplace. Being fearless fuels it. Looking forward to the next post next month!

  3. Peter says:

    Thanks Aimee. This article is energizing!!

  4. Jodi says:

    Aimee, I loved everything about this blog! Stepping out of your comfort zone, no matter what age, helps us to grow, learn and gain confidence. And that aerial yoga sounds cool!

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